Marc October 1st, 2021 Part of the problem is he needs help. If he’s willing to go to therapy and confront his issues then you could work together to beat this. If he’s not willing then you need to decide if it’s worth it. I’m a man struggling with this but I have seeked help and I’m on a path to recovery.
Relationships
Put a label on it and suddenly it’s socially acceptable to collect women the way I collected pogs in middle school. I thought it was a dishonest thing that dishonest men do in order to feel supercilious and smug. It’s easy to default to thinking that asymmetries in a relationship are bad. But imbalances are inevitable—whether it be https://hookupranking.org/ age, attractiveness, wealth, intelligence, success, family, mental health, IG followers, et cetera. But people bring different things to the romantic table. In the end, making it work will come down whether you actually like each other, not whether you both lost your virginities listening to the same riot grrrl band in the ’90s.
I find it outstanding how many men today simply can’t take no for an answer, and then get all defensive against the woman when they have been given the honesty they oh so desperately wanted. You can be darn sure the last man who called me selfish really got an earful from me. I’d happily do the same to you if you’ve got a problem with a personal views. Which I wouldn’t change for any man in this world.
They’re Secretive About Where Their Money Goes
You have 80k in debt and you’re trying to say it’s not as bad because the monthly payment is low? Honey that just means you’ll be in debt a long time because you’re more concerned with the monthly payment than paying it off, you’re nowhere near marriage material in my opinion. Money should never be the sole purpose of giving up on a functional relationship, life is unpredictable and the content of people’s bank accounts rise and fall by the day. If your current boyfriend has a problem with his personality due to his financial situation, then that may be grounds to leave him for someone else. If you both decide to live together, you may have to forfeit the luxuries you were once familiar with in order to focus on the major needs.
There is always a situation with him especially financially and he still hasn’t paid me all of my money back. When things go wrong for him he shuts down and says I guess I’ll go to sleep because there is nothing else to do. I’m tired of this situation and it’s getting old. He doesn’t have his own place, can barely keep up with his car payments. I don’t feel as if I’m in a relationship. I’m trying to stick it in with him but this is not the life I want to live and when and will he ever get his act together?
Do I Really Love Her or Just Want Her?
Now that he is back home, soon he will find a job, maybe a not good of a job cos he is a construction worker and did not go to college. But still there is chance for him to better himself and earn money regularly, and then someone else will benefit from that instead of me. I love every bit of him except that he is not financially stable. I have dated guys that felt all dates should be split.
For those of you who buy into Feminism, Gloria Steinem worked for the CIA and Feminism was a deliberate social engineering of society that no one benefitted from but the Govt. It actually pitted the genders against one another and created gender confusion. Women are actually worse off today than when my grandmother raised her children. I have two degrees and am a single parent, have several properties and believe me when I say I clawed my way there. Sorry at this stage in the game I’m not playing man whisperer. If a guy doesn’t have the motivation to have his priorities in order and something to show for it, then he is not a candidate.
Staying up all night and sleeping all day. Giving me just enough attention to keep me hooked. Because he is a beautiful loving warm intelligent guy. But i want him to want something better!
You don’t have to agree with my views. I noticed your tone started to become more aggressive the more I read on. I can only conclude that you interpreted me wrong.
I need an unbiased opinion on what to do here. Because I feel hurt and I didn’t do anything wrong in my opinion. Oh and by the way I did pay for his 18-pack of beer and our dinner for the night even though he cooked. Now for my daughter, I want to teach her to be independant, to be a real woman and not a little princess who have to find a middle class husband with a good situation. My ex, she has been raised in a middle class family with good incomes and good money. I woke up every morning with the wish of doing the right thing and assuming my choices like an adult.